Being a Holocaust survivor, Dr. Adizes feared love. He writes, “It was too dangerous to love. Those I loved perished.”
Focusing on career, he achieved great success, but always felt a lack of love. He was successful, but not happy. In his quest to experience love, he writes this insightful book and shares his learnings. He started the journey with learning to love himself first, the first step. “Love has neither space nor time boundaries. I needed to love myself, every part of me without exclusion of any part of me, as a condition to free energy to love the world. Instead of looking ‘out there’, to find love, I realized I needed to do the work ‘in here’, starting with little me. ‘Before going on to love others, you need to be able to love the little Izzy in you.’ Love is letting go of fear.”
His first suggestion is to start the day together😊! Body, mind and heart (soul). This resonated with me instantly because I too seek to align Manasa Vacha Karma – What my body does, what my mind thinks, and what my heart feels need to be aligned and in agreement, always.
Love yourself, and you can love others. Now, love is a feeling, an emotion to experience, feel and live! Saying, ‘I love myself, or I love you’ is always together, with Body, mind and heart. “Love is the harmony of different voices singing in unison, complementing each other, with mutual trust and respect. There is no love without mutual trust and respect.”
This hit me! I started to ask myself if I respected myself, trusted my decisions and most of the time I find myself doubting my decisions, and actions. As a result, most of my postmortem time is spent berating myself, my thoughts and actions!
We show disrespect when we prohibit people from thinking or being different.
My conflict with myself and my persona trying to accommodate to my loved ones is perpetual. We all are different people and will have differences. How much have I accommodated, and what has it cost me, to drive me away from my true nature? Is there respect and trust for the person for whom I am making these accommodations?
Else love is out of the window and all I am left with is bitterness and anger, at myself and the other!
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