Coincidentally, I was reading this chapter on relationships whilst I was in Berlin! A city with a very checkered past, I was inspired to see the number of changes the city has made and is continuing to make in working towards peace and unity.
The leaders clearly seem to have adapted to the growth mindset and want to surge ahead together, with love and harmony. In my one night’s stay, I witnessed peace marches for Croatia, prayers for Gaza, prayers and group meditation celebrating peace month! Strangest of all, a certain meditation path, Falun Gong movement, which is banned in China, is being offered and practiced openly in Berlin: https://www.gfbv.de/en/news/china-must-respect-religious-freedom-8668-1/ .I never thought a day like this would ever come, in a place where the scars of Hitler’s devastation still remain.
Dr Dweck writes, “…the fixed mindset gives no recipe for healing their wounds, all they could do was to hope to wound the person who inflicted it….For the fixed mindset the number one goal is revenge.”
As a country or as an individual, fixed mindset is debilitating. The room for change is sadly lost. The French have an expression, “Tout comprendre c’est tout pardonner.” It means, to understand all is to forgive all. A profound growth mindset thought! Understanding or awareness is the starting point and what we do with this awareness is what defines us.
As long as I lived in the fixed mindset, I felt stuck as a person. Growth mindset helped me understand, process, forgive, and move on. No event, good or bad, is the end of life. Everything is a learning experience, a part of life. I learn from these experiences and look forward to doing things differently.
The growth mindset resonates with the seventh maxim of the Heartfulness path, “If you are feeling wronged by anyone, do not wish for revenge. Instead, think this comes from God and be grateful.”
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