"Nonviolent Communication is based on the principle of Ahimsa — the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart." ~ Marshall Rosenberg, founder of NVC.
NVC is a new language guiding us, teaching us how to express ourselves, how we hear others and resolve conflicts by focusing our consciousness on what we are observing, feeling, needing and requesting- the four pillars of non-violent communication. A language which prompts us to focus on our inner self, stay connected with what is alive in us, and seeking fulfillment. With the newfound self-awareness, NVC opens the doors of honest communication with one and all.
“It is a tool that leads us toward a quality of connection among people where everyone’s needs are valued and get met through compassionate giving—out of the joy of contributing to another human being. The potency of NVC is in its pragmatic simplicity. In any moment, there are two ways to enhance connection & understanding: (1) vulnerably express our own feelings & needs, or (2) empathically listen to the feelings & needs of the other. These are radically different choices than we are accustomed to experience when we are in conflict: namely, fight, submit or flee. While simple, NVC is often challenging to embody because we are so deeply conditioned to perceive each other through judgments. With practice, the tool of NVC helps us navigate within ourselves to transform blame & judgment--where neither our own needs nor those of the other person are likely to be met--into a mutual awareness of human needs.”
When I started on this voyage of NVC, I never realized that I would be embarking on the toughest journey of my life. Very determinedly I have tried to peel the layers of my inner nature and learnt to focus on my needs and feelings. Having always lived with a preconditioned mindset, getting rid of my many biases, conditionings and prejudices became a very challenging task. This language has improved my self-awareness. I have tried to break the shackles and rid myself of many misconceptions.
Like Marshal Rosenberg writes, “A Language of Compassion Rather Than Domination” and I want to share this language in the following posts. Teaching is a good way to learn, and this language offers me a chance to do exactly that; share my learnings and learn a little more as I walk this path.
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